Should we really put on a happy face? Why? Is it for ourselves or others? To try and convince ourselves we’re happy if we’re not? Somehow improve our attitude? To mask our emotions so others don’t know or don’t ask what’s wrong?
Couldn’t things be a little better if we were more…. real? Some may not want to hear all about the details of someone’s life, but for me it might help there to not be feelings of jealousy or feeling inadequate. By knowing that there are so many around struggling or sad or lonely, etc. then we wouldn’t feel the need to wrongfully compare. Just sympathize together. You wouldn’t have these surprise moments when they’re bearing their testimony at church about their past struggles that are finally over and you had no idea in the first place!
You would know that others:
-struggle with their weight too
-are out of a job
-didn’t, and wouldn’t, buy these fancy looking name-brand clothes themselves, but found a great deal for them at a garage sale or second-hand store
-struggle with some disease or ailment
-take a long time to make their hair look that way or their make-up
-are stressed out by the kids too
-feel unappreciated or discouraged
I just feel like not until heaven, or maybe it won’t even stop there if we take our little flaws, will we stop comparing ourselves to others. We’re not equal, and I’d rather we were. At least I feel like in the Temple it’s a little more equal since we’re all in white. There’s no fashion statements there. At church I look around and so many couples seem so happy and have it all together even will several kids when who knows how they really are. Especially when asking people, "How are you?" in passing. Do either of you have time to really hear/tell about how you/they are? Do you/they REALLY want to know? I just hate how fake we are with other people. But if we did know all that stuff about them, what difference would it make? Would we feel better about ourselves? Or worse? I just don’t know.
In Church the Stake Presidency was there and with the adults did a Q & A session. It was nice to know what others are worried/thinking about. We’re all really in the same boat. No real conclusions or solid answers were given to solve dilemmas, but getting back to the basics was once again reaffirmed. We complicate life, but if we just do the simple things we’ve been taught– Family/Personal Prayer and Scripture Study, Temple and Church Attendance, FHE– then we’d all have the Spirit more abundantly in our lives, be more protected and have more peace of mind.
Maybe if I were better at doing those simple things, I’d feel better about myself and feel good about others without having to compare myself to them in any way, but just appreciate our differences. Perhaps I’m focusing too much outward and not looking inward and appreciating what IS there, not what isn’t. Or maybe I’m focusing too much inward- too vain- so I start looking outward to try and make myself feel better, but only make myself feel worse by comparing.
I’ve just been feeling very stressed, discouraged, and overwhelmed lately and had to get out some thoughts. Thanks for the therapy session. 🙂